The essence of vulnerability in my mind, is to find yourself wanting…
Wanting for the lost soul within one’s self to finally re-align, so we feel whole.
I think from my perspective, life ‘is’ vulnerability… from the moment we’re born we find ourselves cast into a world of moments; moments that offer us up to understanding our personal weaknesses.
If we’re lucky, as humans, our mother and father will shield us until we’re able to find our feet. If we are unlucky then the path to adulthood is not quite as simple, meaning that we develop an additional layer or two of guardedness, but ultimately inside we still feel what each of us feels – vulnerable.
I find the most valuable aspect of dealing with my own mental wellbeing, is to focus on my drivers as an individual. And I don’t mean the everyday wants and needs of the vast majority… I’m not talking about focussing on money, or how to arrange your next holiday. I’m talking about what drivers we each have as individuals that may help us to feel more complete within.
A few years back I took a step back and asked myself ‘what is it I want’?
My decision was simple; I wanted to wake up every day and feel happy, happy within me, happy within who I was as a person, what I do for a living, my day to day…
That struggle still continues even now, but I find that I am developing a lifestyle that fulfils me. And while working to support a charity initiative, or building a kennel for my dogs out of pallets, teaching my friends kids some martial arts etc. I find that I’m living within the soul and energy that I want to achieve.
Our lifestyles define our mental state and it is our lifestyles we must change in order to develop and to overcome those darker moments. For we cannot change who we are, you are who you were born to be; but we can change how we live our lives, we can understand what fills us with a passion, what mends our souls in those moments of grief.
I am not a religious man, but I do believe there is an energy that binds us as a planet and as one whole organism we, as individuals, can re-align our own energy, to flow along those roads life takes us down… You could call it “wanky”, but I think that science defines this ‘magnetic energy’, if you will, as a reality and we all have a place in the jigsaw. That doesn’t mean you should conform, you must find who you are, irrespective of what societal trends dictate. After all, a society without individuals just becomes grey and automated.
If you feel in your life you are vulnerable, please don’t dwell on the shadow… There are people who care, who’ll talk to you and really listen. It may not always feel that way in life, but you can reach out, we all have the strength to connect and only as individuals can we change our own stars!
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond all measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do.
It is not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”